Right now with Covid pandemic many of us have for the first time expereinced the power of knowing you are not alone and many for the first time have felt the benefit of being able to share how hard the changes have impacted them. 

Social media has given us a platform to share our highs and lows and with celebrities and royality alike talking opening about mental health and the impact of stress more and more peopel are aware that they are not alone. Many have had their world turned upside down, plans changed and what used to work for you, may no longer available or it simply doesn't work any longer?  

If you are feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, it is hard to make a good decision and in my 30 years of motivating individuals to take action I have come to understand that many of us have flawed decision making models and sadly we often don't realise until we hit crisis point.

When our models focus on what others want and we lose sight of what we need to work, learn and live at our best we can lose the confidence to ask for what we need, because we are already predicting the impact on others. When we make up what the impact will be we make decisions base on assumptions and we take away the other person's opportunity to decide.  

I know from persoally experience and it broke me.

At my worst time I felt so stuck, I could not see a way forward that did not result in someone getting hurt and so I went without which hurt me, mentally, physically, financially and emotionally. 

Iornically I had alreayd helped thousands of people solve this very problem and yet I was not taking my own advice. 

Once you know what you want, many can and do take action. Clarity 80% of the time is enough to create the change. Yet many get stuck and lose confidence in themselves and their ability to make good decisions.

When you know the action comes down to you. It is easy to assume you should be able to do this for yourself and by yourself. What many don't know is that different kinds of listening give your own system different feedback. It is the way you listen to that feedback that can and does evoke motivation to act.

When you are listened to in a particular way it can give you access to the wisdom you have within that you often cannot access alone. For many one to one coaching or just talking to a good friend can elicit this information and for others the power of a group is vital. When you work with a group with a common goal you often gain the language and insight that describes your experience in a way that you could never have done alone.  

In the age of information there is never a lack of free resources, opinions and suggestions but few offer you time and space to listen to yourself and the feedback you are giving yourself on a daily basis. It is this feedback that can and does impact you deeply. 

When you give yourself time to think, you create time to develop solutions and strategies that can support you to work, learn and live at your best both independently and collaboratively with others.  But thinking on your own can often be unproductive and ineffective, leaving you feeling trapped and isolated.  

That is where 'The Listening Detective' comes in. Yes sometimes all we need is some quiet time and space away from everything and everyone to think.  Other times we need questions to guide our attention and or feedback that gives us insights and awareness of our patterns and beliefs that are often outside our own conscious awareness.

Did you know there are up to 8 kinds of listening? 

More importantly do you know what kind of listening you need to gain clarity and build confidence in your own abilities and decison making process.